Category: Dating and Relationships
Recently this week has been absolute hell for me. I was dumped by what I call a temporary boyfriend. And then I found a friend from high school I really liked. It seemed like this guy and I were hitting it off nicely but then things started getting cold. I asked the friend who's not disabled nor has/knows any family or friends who have a disability for that matter if he liked me. And I only stressed to him that even though I found him attractive, I never once felt that things would go any further then friendship. I mean he lives far away (Japan I think) and he hardly uses the net and has no phone which kinda makes you wonder if he uses the net how does he connect?
To make long story short he rejected me this morning. I wont go into detail but it made it seem like I was either hitting on him (which I'm not that way) or fell in love (which again I felt things couldn't go any farther then friendship.) it just made it seem like I was at fault. When I reread the email I sent him last night I not once said anything about love, boyfriend, relationship, feelings, romance... I dunno if he used it as a scape goat to get away from me. Maybe he was faking the friendship. However one friend told me he maybe thinking otherwise but is too shy to say something. Anyhoo I was crushed twice over I didn't eat all today thats how bad my stress level is. And when I did get a craving to eat all I had craving for was sweet stuff.
This is how I try to relieve rejection: Food. It can be a bad thing but I moderated what I ate. The other stress relieaver I used was listening to hard rock music. Then letting 99% of my anger out in my private journal on livejournal.com. But most importantly the only way I was able to beat hellish rejection like this today was by talking to my friends. I feel better to some degree but I wonder what the hell I did wrong and why I deserved such harsh comments this morning in my hotmail inbox.
So my question to both gender male/female have you faced rejection? If so how did you take it? How did you beat it? And if you don't me asking what were your worset rejection stories in relationships?
Yes I have faced it it was in the third grade. I really liked someone at my home school and she turned me down and I was mad and sad for a while, then I just moved on. So for you give it time and you'll get over it and maybe talk to someone you trust about how you feel. Good luck I'll be praying that it all works out. Tony.
All rejections are the same to me, and it is very heart breaking I will add but all I can tell you is yo take it one day at a time, each day holds a new chapter in our lives, and always know there is someone out there for ya it just takes time and patients, granted I am still looking for that special someone myself.
Most of time time when I face rejection it's either about the blindness issue or the guy is just not interested. In this case it wasn't about my blindness, it was about him not wanting to make a obligation to me and things get serious to then be dampered by long distance. But I wonder just the way he took it in the email it sounded like somethings not right. He got my email (on myspace theres a way you can check to see if email was read by the receiptant) but half the time he never responds.
I love rejection, it gives me an excuse to snort coke and shoot up harowin!
yes any rejection is the same really. Nothing easy to say. but time passes and it gets slightly easier each day. I have had much much experience with it unfortunately. Let's hope I'm near the end of that!
good luck! :)
Rd your right as far as I'm concerned it happens and in the end, how you cope, will determin how you handle future relationships.
i've never really been rejected but i guess if i was i wouldn't care. after all life is to short to worry about little things like that! i'm not interested in no one
hmmm, well, I handle rejection about the same way I handle any kind of bad news, sure, the first responce is usually to get pissed or sad. but after that worrying about it doesn't change anything. Yes I know this is very hard to learn to do but I've gotten better and better over time, and once you get used to doing it sure makes all the difference in the world.
Thats what most of my rejections were is because of my blindness and that really hurts that they don't give you a chance, amd also some of those seem to careless about the feelings towards them. Hey all I can say to that is it's their loss if you ask me, I don't know if its just me thinking this or not but do they think were stupid or something? We are smart in all areas like they are just have different needs is all.
Yes I have been through it two many times. I have feelings for a girl I went to school with and it is kind of hard on me just because we have een friends for so long. I do talk to her on the phone and on the msn messenger. I guess that is all I ghave to say for now.
I guess the way I deal with rejection is by convencing myself that the person wasn't worth having after all and it must not have been meant to be. I also think to myself that I'll probably come across someone even in the future who will like me too. However, I'm in a releationship and haven't had to deal with this in about 4 or 5 years.